I just urge people to find some healthier perspective on the whole thing.
A private client told me just this weekend that she’s quitting online dating after three bad dates in a row.
I was curious as to what your real opinion is of online dating.
I did meet my girlfriend online, but after a year of painful struggle, meaning hardly any dates despite being educated, employed, and reasonably attractive.
They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.
Aside from my own luck and the trendy radio ads and sexy commercials, it seems as if no one’s happy.
He’s apparently a great guy who will be a good father and husband — and he’s more financially stable — but the things she likes about him are mostly in her head, not her heart.
So while she’s been waffling about who to choose — and felt she had plenty of time to keep waffling — she feels that she’s run out of time.Go to one of those websites that reviews dating sites and you’ll see the same.Average review will be 2 out of 5 stars or something like that. Because people who get married from online dating sites rarely get back online to post happy reviews on websites.She’s dated both of them, but the relationships have been very different. She saw things in him that she knew needed work — for both of them. There aren’t the highs and lows, but there also isn’t the magical connection.
With one guy, she feels the magical connection that most of us want to feel and that a few of us have felt in a very real way. What’s more, she feels that he needs her far more than she needs him.
Here is what I wrote back to her: First of all, I’ve had EVERY bad dating experience you can possibly imagine.